HOW TO DEAL WITH LONG DISTANCE / A LOVED ONE MOVING AWAY

*Que not so happy blog post about fun things we have been doing and buying*

So the title pretty much sums up what this post is going to be about. Its Amy here btw.

You might or might not know that my boyfriend is from New Zealand. He came over there on a two year working visa and this definitely was not in his plan haha. Cut a very long story short he has to go home ( like properly home, not just for a bit ) and I want to write this blog post to show you that if you’re going through the same thing, everything will be okay.

When he broke it to me that he had to go home, of course I was devastated and many tears where shed. However, the main thing I would say, is that you have to listen to what they have to say, not just completely go into melt down mode. Everyone has a reason for the things they do and sometimes, no matter how hard you try, things don’t go perfectly your way.

I always knew that he was eventually going to go home, but the reason I was so shocked was because it was about seven months before we had originally planned. One massive piece of advise I would give is that you cannot get angry with the person. In my situation, he wanted to stay for me but physically couldn’t and it was as hard as a decision for him to make as it is for me to deal with. In times like this you have to be selfless. You have to do what’s best for the both of you. I’ve had a lot of people asking me if I am angry at him or if I am disappointed at the fact he is going and the answer is no. As I said before, it is a heartbreaking situation for the both of you.

I know I’m giving all of this advice now, but that is because I have had time to come to terms with it. I tried to black it out at the start, which is a natural instinct and its only now, when he hasn’t got long to go that its really smacked me in the face.

I’m sorry this post is not as happy as our usual ones so lets get into something more exciting.

Im very lucky in the way that I am able to join him over in New Zealand next January. Which means we will only be apart for 5 months. He is travelling for two months starting very soon, ( I wont see him at all then ) and then he come back for a few days and then he’s off. The reason I want to touch on this is because if you want it to, long distance relationships can work for a period of time. What will keep me going is the thought of seeing him and counting down the months until I can. Taking part in a long distance relationship forever is a different kettle of fish but this is only temporary. I’m not saying its going to be easy because it’s not. There’s going to be times when all I want is to be able to see him and I won’t be able to. Also the time difference is going to make it a struggle, but if you want it to work, you can make it work.

So I am in the middle of applying for my two year work visa, booking my flights etc etc and I couldn’t be more excited at what the future holds. He has always been so desperate for me to see his side of the world and everything he raves about. Leaving my friends and family behind is going to be a big struggle for me but I am only 18 years old ( nearly 20 by the time I go) and I have the rest of my life ahead of me. Travelling has always been a dream of mine and I’m so glad I am taking the first step towards it. Going out there on my own is a massive thing for me to do, it’s completely out of my comfort zone. ( As in, I wouldn’t even go to a pub and have a hot chocolate on my own).

This also means, next January the blog will get VERY exciting.

I’m sorry this wasn’t a nice, happy, upbeat post about something lovely I have done recently but life isn’t all peachy and sh*t happens.

Thanks so much for reading, make sure to leave any comments or tips you have!

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5 thoughts on “HOW TO DEAL WITH LONG DISTANCE / A LOVED ONE MOVING AWAY

  1. I know how you feel! I totally agree with you. Sometimes it´s hard to have a long distance relationship. But we´re nearly one year together and it still works. Like you said if you really want it, it can work. I wish you all the best and that everything will work in the future!

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